Managing Child Behavior
The MANAGING CHILD BEHAVIOR section of this website contains posts on that most challenging aspect of parenting, dealing with children’s misbehaviors, or children who are “out of control.”
My New School approach to parenting is based on the idea that almost all parents believe they should be able to control their children’s behavior, when in fact that is totally impossible. And it’s a big mistake to try. Because it leads to power struggles and invites child defiance.
The Volcano Theory explains why parental control of child behavior is impossible, the responses children have to parental attempts at control, a rating system for assessing the severity of your child’s unacceptable behaviors, how you unwittingly encourage precisely the behaviors you DO NOT WANT, and the role of empathy, or the ability to relate to the child on an emotional level.
3 Steps to Parent-Child Harmony is my ebook that describes in detail the differences between the Old School Parenting model (based on power, control, and punishments) and the New School Parenting model (based on dialogue, agreements, and accountability). The ideas contained here represent a shift from parenting harder to parenting smarter. They can transform a stressed parent-child relationship from conflict and arguments to one of cooperation and harmony. Please see these links if you are interested in more information or wish to purchase.